Learning When To Take Time Out

I am 21, I have a bachelors degree, I started my career with a bang in a pretty impressive building, to build my experience further I did a three month internship on top of my full time job, i'm trying to blog with fairly decent content, keep up my social media platforms, maintain both close and long distance friendships and keep a positive mental attitude. Now, reading that I realise that I have a ton of stuff going on, and it really does take its toll on both my physical and mental health.

At the beginning of the year, I wrote about my new years resolutions , one of the goals I was aiming to achieve by the end of the year was to take more time out to focus on self love. I have to say that I am excelling at this. I've learnt the importance of self love, and how much better it can make me feel. For me, self love doesn't always mean having a pamper evening, or getting a good nights sleep. Although they're both important for your well being, I think there are different things that can add to your self love. I will give you an insight to the things I have been doing to improve myself as a young woman learning to get the best out of life.

Up keeping My AppearanceI am a very pale girl and have very fair hair. I get my eyebrows waxed regularly, I dye them myself and also get my eyelashes tinted. Although most people probably don't notice, this is a huge thing for me because it makes such a difference to my appearance. I just need to make sure I don't let my brows get too unruly before getting them waxed. Another thing that boosts my confidence in my appearance is having a tan. Now I am a big lover of fake tan, it's cheap, instant and doesn't damage your skin like a sun bed. Although i'm a lover, I can't help but hate the process of tanning.. standing around in my flat naked waiting for it to dry, getting brown stains on my sheets and pj's from where it comes off in the night. I either fake tan religiously or leave it ages and then feel like a goddess when I do finally get round to it. It's something I should stick to because it makes me feel good, but the effort can sometimes be a tad too much. 
Contacting Friends RegularlyI've always been a believer that if someone wants to make effort with you they will, and if they don't make effort then they simply don't care. Well, as I've got older, and hopefully wiser. I've learnt this isn't always the case. Adults have a lot of shit going on in their lives, and everyone is different. I go on my phone regularly and sometimes don't understand why people don't reply to texts instantly or whatever. But I just need to remember that everyone has a ton of stuff going on.. Maintaining friendships is so so important to me so if that means I'm contacting someone first then so be it. I don't have a close knit group of friends that I see every weekend, but I do have a handful of close friends that I could go months with out seeing, and then as soon as we are reunited it is as though nothing has changed. For me that is much more important. 
Being SelfishI am such a people pleaser, I will literally do anything (within reason) to make someone happy. Sometimes this means I'm not making myself happy. I am slowly learning to be selfish, this can consist of saying no to things that I don't really want to do, buying things for myself rather than treating someone else etc. The big thing for me is saying no, I pile huge amounts of things on myself and then don't actually have any free time to relax. Although I do love being busy and seeing lots of people so I don't get lonely, sometimes I do need just one night to lie down on my sofa and watch shitty TV. It is ok to say no!
Reverting Back To The Old MeAs i've grown up, I seem to have lost certain interests due to wanting to fit in with people, or to get people to like me. This is not the way to do it, if I could go back and give myself advice, it would be to not change for anyone!! This can be things such as changing my fashion style, my music taste and even the opinions I have. I've recently started listening to the music I want to which is very diverse and dressing the way that makes me feel like me again. And I feel soooooooo good for it! If I want to mosh in my car and play air drums one minute to some rock, then sing along to Justin Beiber's latest banger then that is what I will do. I'm sick of people telling me they don't like something I love and then suddenly I stop loving it just to impress them. If people don't like me for who I really am, then I definitely do not need them in my life! 
What do you do to focus on self love? Do you have any tips for me?